Post by jaye on Jul 10, 2008 10:44:08 GMT -5
after nine years of heartbreak..... i've finally gotten custody of my 14 year old son..... our court system saw fit to give my son to a vindictive....greedy woman that just wanted him to spite me and to secure a source of income....
when we divorced my lawyer told me that if i ever hoped to get him....i needed to come out of the divorce with joint custody..... to get joint custody i gave her my share in a home that i virtually built with my own hands..... and i gave her my car that she never paid a dime on and i kept my old truck.....
i got to pick him up every other weekend.... and in nine years i never missed one time in picking him up..... he and his mom have never really gotten along and he hated living with her..... she didn't care tho.... as she got what she wanted..... it broke my heart to see him start crying everytime i took him back to her house.... nine years of heartbreak....
anyway.....this year.... my lawyer filed a patition to readdress.... and her lawyer informed her that she would take her case....but that she would be wasting money as the judge would ask the child where he wanted to live.....as he would be 15 by the time the court date came around.....
she reluctantly and pissed off gave in and my son and i moved all of his stuff out....
a girl child belongs with her mother..... but a boy belong with his father..... it is amazing to me how with the major problem this country has with young black males..... that a court system will just arbitrarily give a boy to the mother..... if a male child has no father to teach him....he will learn how to be a man from his peers and from black entertainment television......
again....anyway..... i got him into upperbound last year..... and he's now on an upperbound trip to detroit..... they went by the palace and the organization gave them tickets to the washington game tomorrow.... he's out of his moms' house and this is the happiest i've seen him.....
i just wanted to share.....
when we divorced my lawyer told me that if i ever hoped to get him....i needed to come out of the divorce with joint custody..... to get joint custody i gave her my share in a home that i virtually built with my own hands..... and i gave her my car that she never paid a dime on and i kept my old truck.....
i got to pick him up every other weekend.... and in nine years i never missed one time in picking him up..... he and his mom have never really gotten along and he hated living with her..... she didn't care tho.... as she got what she wanted..... it broke my heart to see him start crying everytime i took him back to her house.... nine years of heartbreak....
anyway.....this year.... my lawyer filed a patition to readdress.... and her lawyer informed her that she would take her case....but that she would be wasting money as the judge would ask the child where he wanted to live.....as he would be 15 by the time the court date came around.....
she reluctantly and pissed off gave in and my son and i moved all of his stuff out....
a girl child belongs with her mother..... but a boy belong with his father..... it is amazing to me how with the major problem this country has with young black males..... that a court system will just arbitrarily give a boy to the mother..... if a male child has no father to teach him....he will learn how to be a man from his peers and from black entertainment television......
again....anyway..... i got him into upperbound last year..... and he's now on an upperbound trip to detroit..... they went by the palace and the organization gave them tickets to the washington game tomorrow.... he's out of his moms' house and this is the happiest i've seen him.....
i just wanted to share.....
this is the happiest we've both been in almost a decade....